my husband wants a divorce, and it has been very difficult for me to deal with, i don't want a divorce because i stil love him very much, and want to work things out. but he doesn't want anything to do with me, doesn't even want to be freinds, which i think is very important, because we have 2 boys together, and we need to create some kind of friendship, for thier sake. I am feeling alone, and depressed, and tomarrow is our wedding annavarsarry(can't spell that word..lol) so, valentine's day is going to be a very depressing day for me, we would of been married for 6 years, and we're still legally married, waiting for divorce papers. please let me know, if you have any advice to get over this painful ordeal.How do you establish a friendship with your ex husband, when he feels hateful towards you? I love and miss him
I know this will be hard....but write him a letter telling how much you love him, and how much you want it to work. don't give this letter to him mail it to him with out your name on it. After the letter don't push it any more let it go. no matter how much you want to cry...don't, don't let him see, only let him see you smile, and see you strong. If it still loves you, he still might need time to think, so don't push; the more you push the more he wants out. No matter how hard it is you; you have to live your life for you, not his life for you. Be strong wipe those teirs hugs your kids and give your self a kiss, and be thankful for another day of living. Believe it or not things will be ok with or with out him....just live your life for you.How do you establish a friendship with your ex husband, when he feels hateful towards you? I love and miss him
This is far too complicated for a short answer on here if you provide your email I could posilbly help you....
Probably you can't.
If you can, by 1) not contesting the divorce he wants, 2) being patient, very patient -- it will take a long time and 3)moving on. If he sees that you aren't too needy he may relax, especially as you will have to deal in regards to the children.
The best advice is, accept that you will be unhappy a bit, awhile, sometimes, and that you have to move on. You'll be happier sooner that way.
Why did your husband want a divorce and why is he hateful towards you?
Stop trying, it won't work. You need to move on with your life and be a good role model for your boys. They need a mother who is happy and independant, not someone who living in the past. Instead of dwelling on him for Valentine's day, spend it with your boys. My parents are divorced, and the best thing my mom did was to move on with her life. Your boys will be okay and they will adjust, and you will too. (By the way, when your ex-husband sees how independant or attractive you've become you move on and get over him, he might want you back - Don't fall for him, move on to someone who deserves you.)
let it go it is for the best ive been married 18 yrs seperated 4 of them and havent spoke to him in 4 years, thats just how it goes things just dont work out you can do better