Friday, August 20, 2010

How do you get your ex-girlfriend to forgive you and give you a second chance?

We have been together for 5 years. We had a fight and I was upset with her. I suggested that she leave my place and go back to her parents (out of anger not because I wanted her too). She left and now its been 6 months. We still talk and I've been trying to win her back. She is still upset that I let her walk out of my life without me even trying to convince her to stay. She says he is still anger and that she doesn't know if she can forgive me. All I want is a second chance to prove to her that she is the only one for me. How and what can I do to get her to forgive me?How do you get your ex-girlfriend to forgive you and give you a second chance?
I've learned about this the hard way...I did this to my first love...not thinking he would leave but, he did...I didn't hesitate to stop him, I just let him go...at that time, not thinking and letting my pride and hope make me think he would come back to me...but he didn't.


When we say things out of anger, we don't mean it...yet you have to accept your consequences.


Now if you love her...you roll with the punches. If you lucky and she still loves you...she'll make it work again...but you have to understand that she has the upper hand. YOU can't do anything to force her to change her feelings...you CAN only be there for her when she needs you...WOW 6 months is a long time.


Good luck!

Your Ex a friend or an enemy (this is long)?

In my own heart i consider my second ex girlfriend as my enemy for breaking my heart and that she wanted us to be friend. Honestly i really don't believe that here this message at the end here my poem expressing how i felt after the breakup





Her message


-sigh- someone brainwashed you didnt they.


look if your still made about what happened to us so be it, but i cant change the past because guess what.....its the past!!!!=O so deal


i tried to go back to being friends then you ignore me i try online you start talking to me but its all semi-suisidal rantings then i try to joke with you, your serious. honestly i dont know if i wanna be your friend anymore, or what ever you consider us as who knows what i am to you.


i could be dead for all i know





My message


okay you know what


1. I'm over that


2. I know what's in the past is in the past


3. just because I'm semi-suisidal doesn't mean i want to do it


4. your not dead to mean unless you do something like killed my folks or my gf or my bros (which i know your not that crazy to do) then I would know that your dead by getting revenge by paintballing your house with a smily joker face or kill you .


5.Brainwashing not okay!?!! how is that possible even though they might do on t.v.


6. after what happend to us I hated you!!! it hurt me I couldn't sleep or eat. everytime you would say hi i would say goodbye then I realized that hating someone was never in my nature


7.you know Laura thinks that I should find peace with you and forgive you


8. I'm pretty sure that I dead to you too!





Her message


answers


1,2,3 ok as long as you dont actually do it were cool even semi is bad enough.


4, i agree with you on that one


5, it is possible to do, its kinda when you get that mentality that everythings gonna be fine but its only gonna get worse. kinda like that but with a person telling you that.


6,see was that so hard? i've been trying to get you to say that to me, to get you to speak whats on your mind for a year! was that really that hard?


7,well laura's right. i mean i have been trying to be your friend for awhile


8,you were'nt dead to me. how many times have i tried to reach out to you? i really did try but come on. can anyone try forever?








it hurts you so





I know it's over and I can't believe


but the turth is real, so take your leave


you wanted us to be friends, to make it less


well guess what sister, THIS IS YOUR MESS.


I try so hard to make it better, you might as


well trash the roses and my love letter. As time


moves on and u found new love, I grew so bored and


completely sick of. We see each other in the halls


as you said ';hi';, I walk passed you and said ';Good-bye';.


At lunch you go by me and said ';were friends now we


shouldn't fight'; as I closed my eyes and yelled,';Get out of my sight';


as you walk away with sadness in your eyes, I really don't want to hear


any more of your lies. My sorrows grew from head to toe,


I looked at your face and whispers '; it hurts you so';Your Ex a friend or an enemy (this is long)?
if u r not my friend i consider u a foe and an enemy

Your Ex a friend or an enemy (this is long)?

In my own heart i consider my second ex girlfriend as my enemy for breaking my heart and that she wanted us to be friend. Honestly i really don't believe that here this message at the end here my poem expressing how i felt after the breakup





Her message


-sigh- someone brainwashed you didnt they.


look if your still made about what happened to us so be it, but i cant change the past because guess what.....its the past!!!!=O so deal


i tried to go back to being friends then you ignore me i try online you start talking to me but its all semi-suisidal rantings then i try to joke with you, your serious. honestly i dont know if i wanna be your friend anymore, or what ever you consider us as who knows what i am to you.


i could be dead for all i know





My message


okay you know what


1. I'm over that


2. I know what's in the past is in the past


3. just because I'm semi-suisidal doesn't mean i want to do it


4. your not dead to mean unless you do something like killed my folks or my gf or my bros (which i know your not that crazy to do) then I would know that your dead by getting revenge by paintballing your house with a smily joker face or kill you .


5.Brainwashing not okay!?!! how is that possible even though they might do on t.v.


6. after what happend to us I hated you!!! it hurt me I couldn't sleep or eat. everytime you would say hi i would say goodbye then I realized that hating someone was never in my nature


7.you know Laura thinks that I should find peace with you and forgive you


8. I'm pretty sure that I dead to you too!





Her message


answers


1,2,3 ok as long as you dont actually do it were cool even semi is bad enough.


4, i agree with you on that one


5, it is possible to do, its kinda when you get that mentality that everythings gonna be fine but its only gonna get worse. kinda like that but with a person telling you that.


6,see was that so hard? i've been trying to get you to say that to me, to get you to speak whats on your mind for a year! was that really that hard?


7,well laura's right. i mean i have been trying to be your friend for awhile


8,you were'nt dead to me. how many times have i tried to reach out to you? i really did try but come on. can anyone try forever?








it hurts you so





I know it's over and I can't believe


but the turth is real, so take your leave


you wanted us to be friends, to make it less


well guess what sister, THIS IS YOUR MESS.


I try so hard to make it better, you might as


well trash the roses and my love letter. As time


moves on and u found new love, I grew so bored and


completely sick of. We see each other in the halls


as you said ';hi';, I walk passed you and said ';Good-bye';.


At lunch you go by me and said ';were friends now we


shouldn't fight'; as I closed my eyes and yelled,';Get out of my sight';


as you walk away with sadness in your eyes, I really don't want to hear


any more of your lies. My sorrows grew from head to toe,


I looked at your face and whispers '; it hurts you so';Your Ex a friend or an enemy (this is long)?
if u r not my friend i consider u a foe and an enemy
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  • How long did it take you to get over your ex-husband?

    Question: I've been married for 10 years and now we have been separated for almost 6 months. I found out 1 week after leaving that I am pregnant. We have a 3 year old boy. I have always loved my husband and left him, hoping that he'd realize that he has times when he's not all that nice. He never looked back. He cheated on me 1 month after separation.





    I know my marriage is over now. I am coming to grips with that, but I'm guessing some of you have been through divorce. When does it stop hurting? When does it become easier to see him with another woman? When does the vindictiveness stop? Here I am, about to have another child with him and he's wondering if I would consent to allowing his new g/f into the deliver room! I'm not even sure I want HIM in the delivery room. Does anyone relate to this? Why is it so hard to let go?How long did it take you to get over your ex-husband?
    Well number one. Technically if you are legally seperated and if the law does not state other wise or any other legal agreement between you two. Having sex or getting a girlfriend during a legal seperation or being seperated does not indicate cheating. SO technically he did nothing wrong. Morally and perhaps it hurt your feelings and broke your heart but it was not legally cheating. But it does leave you feeling betrayed if only after a month of being apart and not longer ';married'; cause seperated is not married anymore hun. That he could throw 10 years away like that and not even think.





    Guys sometimes are simple minded and one track minds. they do not really think, rationalize, weigh and rethink situations or other peoples feelings.....





    to answer about your children. Ask yourself this





    1) how mean was he, and will this not so nice reflect your kids in any negative way?





    2) does he treat your son good, and will he make a good father to this new baby as well?





    3) is he a good father and will he remain so afterwards the divorce is final?





    A) it doesn't ever really stop hurting. deep down you will always hurt. humans are not made to just forget stuff like feelings and emotions especially of a 10 year marriage. the pain will dull and subside and you will be able to move on. That can take time. It takes time to get over any pain/loss one feels especially of a relationship/marriage coming to an end and no resolution in sight, and the loss of that person. It leaves you feeling empty and loss. But the key is to get passed that. Face your feelings, the hurt ( get him and you to go the a therapist together and perhaps his new gf too if its going to be serious, and your son as well).[ face how you feel. stand up for yourself and your children.





    the hurt to answer directly. the major part where it leaves you crying and feels like your body is being torn down, will subside in time.





    It may never become easier to see him with another women. but you got to move on. and find yourself someone that you love. but no hurry, do not rush or force anything. but it will be easier to see him with another women when he sees you with another man. especially when you find one who treats you better and you love so deeply.





    the vindictiveness may never stop. but after everything is settled in court it may subside.








    I wouldn't allow the gf to be in the delivery room let alone near my child. you can specify that for visitation it has to be only him and not this girlfriend. in the papers with the court.





    its so hard to let go because the feelings and the good are forever in YOU and in your memory. things will trigger it and you have to learn to work past this.





    find hobbies, go to therapy with .. HIM, your son , yoruself and this gf if she is a serious thing....





    Letting go is not always easy.





    I relate to this is so many different ways. I was married previously ( long story) but its over and i got over it...so i know the loss even though it wasnt 10 years and we do not have kids togehter.





    i have lost someone deer to me and i know its hard at first but time and space and effort helps








    good luck to youHow long did it take you to get over your ex-husband?
    i know how you feel, my husband up and left me and his unborn baby at 7 months pregnant for a 17r old high school girl. i have to come to grips everyday that there together and that soon he will we get visitation rights to his daughter even though he is the one the cheated!


    it is going to take a long time to get over such hurt. i go thru so many moods everyday, anger, hate, love,disgust, crying, rage.


    what you need to do is not focus on the man he used to be but focus on what he has become... a cheater!


    from the sound of it he does not love you any more and you deserve so much better than him! do not let him in to the delivery room and if it was me i wouldn't put him on the birth certificate either. limit seeing him as much as you can!


    forget about them and focus on your child and child to be!


    they are sucky people and they will get theres in the end!

    What would you do about your ex if you were me? how would u get him back?

    do you think me and my ex would ever be 2gether?


    me and him was 2gether for 3.5 years and it was ok not perfect and not bad. i know he loves me and i love him 4 sure.


    and about a month ago he said that he dont want to be 2gether cuz he tired of things that i do liek nag him all the time and ***** about things.





    he still talks to me ont he phone and i've seen him 2 days ago and when we was walking my shirt was up a lil and my skin was shown and he said pull down your shirt. when i look at him i can see in his eyes that he miss me and loves me, but y didnt he just say that he wants to seperate for a while.





    and he told me that he has another gurl and i ask so much about her that he start to tell me dont worry about it why does it matta and its not important.





    people i know and my friends tell me that he lies to you so you can leave him alone and not bother him.





    i want to do that but i wish i knew if he will coem back. i know he loves me and cares he even told me that. after a break up.


    i told him that i understand that i was wrong and that i will try my best not to nag and ***** and he said ok and i said i just want to be ur friend now.


    then when i seen him i started to ask about his new gf and nag him i asked him to show my his gf. pic in his phone he said he will and now he says no he wont cuz he dont want me to be mad and nag about her. i don t really believe that he has another gf. and he said that i say 1 thing and do the other so what i say aboutme change is bull.


    so it tells me that he want me to change and then we can be 2gether? what you guys think.





    i will do that i will change to be with him, cuz i know we love each other and we will be happy 2gether.What would you do about your ex if you were me? how would u get him back?
    Very complex question.


    Sounds like you guys just need to be alone together away from a door or a phone so he cant walk away or call anybody or have anybody call him or you.


    Ask him exactly how he feels about you and you cant interrupt him and then when he's done, tell him exactly how you feel about him and he cant interrupt you.


    Then you guys need to talk about what you have together and where you guys stand as a couple.


    If he wants to see someone else, talk about why he wants to and if you can still be together.





    :)What would you do about your ex if you were me? how would u get him back?
    SORRY! TI DON'T think he will come back.He DOESN'T LIKE your nagging.He has probably moved on.That's what you should do!
    It's over and he just doesn't have the balls to break it off cleanly with you.





    It sounds like you are better off without him, I know the loneliness is hard but you will move on when the time is right.





    Don't change to be with him. That never works.
    Forget about him and take some English classes for ummm..fun!
    Ask not how he can change for you, but how you can change for him. Like, try not to complain and jump on top of things so much. Don't nag and ***** all the time and let things go.
    Guys aren't really worth all the trouble of changing who you are. If he truly loves you, then you wouldn't have to nag. He'd be happy to do whatever makes you happy. It shouldn't be a big chore for either of you.
    If he has a girlfriend, he does not love you. This is all you wanting him back as he said he wants to be your friend.
    Why would you want the jerk back?
    Hmm ya...seems like he is trying to change your behavior. Let him come to you. Don't beg him to be with you and don't change who you are for him either.





    Nagging is it? Well did you have a reason or were you just being a nag...if you had a reason it isn't nagging.
    he finds fault with u because he has someone else, its an excuse they give u when they want someone else, most likely it has nothing to do with anything u did, or didn't do, he is just stringing u along, so if she dumps him he will still have some where to go, but if he loved u he would never have left to be with her. its really all about them, not u or what u may have done. just an excuse so he will not have to be accountable or have to take any of the blame for his own choices or actions. personally u need to distance yourself from this cheater, and move on, find someone who doesn't cheat or find fault with u. he just don't love u like u love him, or think he loves u.
    No. He wanted to break up. If you try to ';change'; you'll only be acting fake, not the real you. That never works.
    If he were so in love with you, he would have never left, and he wouldn't be bangin' some other chic while your on here asking how to get him back.
    I think you need to let him be w/ his ';girlfriend';
    Ok. We have all been in this spot at one point or another. Honey the best thing you can do is fall in love with yourself. Change your hair or go shopping for a new look and new you. Find a hobby. Get some girl time in with friends. The best thing you can do is act like you are over him. Show confidence in yourself and he will be thinking your over him. Maybe the shoe will be on the other foot and he will start calling you and asking questions. Create suspense. If it doesn't work at least you will have a new look for your new life and maybe latch onto a new man. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

    My boyfriend is still friends with his ex.... what should i do?

    i'm so sorry this is so long... but i just feel like i have to let everything out!!! *tears* :(


    ok... it wasn't a big deal at first....


    i'm a kool girlfriend and i trust him...


    but early this year his ex sent me a message lying and saying that she was his girlfriend of 7 years and asking if he's cheating on her with me and blah blah blah.... and at that time i believed her... and broke up with him...





    we got back together when i found out that she was lying....


    but that wasn't the end of it... i started recieving messages from her cousins telling me that i'm a whore and a slut and that my boyfriend really wants to be with her cousin and blah blah blah....





    my boyfriend told me to ignore her and her cousins, and i tried, but i couldn't... i wrote them back basically telling them to leave us alone and mind their own business basically....





    then she started threatening me, telling me that she knows were i live and she knows what classes i take and she will come to my school and embarrass me.... mind you, this is a 21 year old WOMAN... i'm 20, and i live on campus at a university, and my bf is 21...





    i broke up with his again for a reason not involving her.... and during the time we were broken up, he told me that he brought her over his house to kind of ';clear things up'; and ';make things right';... and i couldn't get mad because we weren't together.... but i was thinking why do you want to clear things up with your eX???





    before we got back together, i told him if he wants to be with me, he has to stop talking to her.... and he said he would... but i just knew he was lying....because it's not that easy to stop talking to someone you knew almost all your life... he even told me that himself....





    THEN..his grandmother died, and i knew he told her because of their history together (they've know each other since they were 14, she was his first and everything!!!)... so i didn't want to ask him about it because he was going through a loss... he was very close with is grandma...





    so recently i found out his password to his facebook... yes i was being nosey and i wanted to find out what it was because she is his friend on facebook...it was an extremely easy password that he always uses..almost like he wanted me to find out....





    but anyways, i saw messages from her telling him ';i want my dick'; and ';what sexual pleasure can i do for you'; and just a lot of inappropriate stuff... even though he didn't respond back to it.... it really upset me.... and i called him crying and telling him its over...





    so he basically stalked me for a while... texting me and calling me and telling me he misses me... one time he came to my school unannounced and was almost in tears... telling me he needs me and misses me.... i left his car and walked away... he got out of his car with the key still in the ignition and ran to me begging for me back....


    i told him ';your car is still on'; he was like ';idk about my car!!'; lol





    and he told me if we didn't get back together he would stalk me... idk y... but i thought that was cute in a wierd way... of course at the time i was like ';your a weirdo';.... but neways... as of now we're back together because he told me that he wants the ';just be friends with her'; but she want to be MORE than that...





    do you think i should stay in a relationship like this.... we've been together for 1 year and 3 months... i care about him but i don't want to be hurt!! he wants to stay friends with her but she obviously doesn't care about our relationship... and how can you be friends with someone who talks about your gf...





    i never check his phone or anything but i feel like she and him probably text each other nasty stuff.. and she probably sends him nasty pictures... i'm so sad right now.... i mean if she's sending him all this stuff on facebook... what are they talking about??? texting eachother??


    sometimes i feel like i'm jealous of their relationship...





    idk you guys...i know he cares about me because he shows it in sooooo many ways... but is it worth still being with him and having to put up with this crap!!! :( please help me becasue i honestly have no one else to really talk to this about... thanx!!!


    *tears* :(My boyfriend is still friends with his ex.... what should i do?
    I would say no,it's not worth it but if you're going to break up with someone do it because it's best for you-not because it's what his freaky ex wants you to do. I think you should be careful,though-he would have cut her off long ago if she didn't mean something to him.





    Proceed with extreme caution-and if your instincts start telling you he's having a relationship with her and you at the same time,get out of the situation.My boyfriend is still friends with his ex.... what should i do?
    Oh wow you really have a big problem here. I feel sorry for you since i know how you may feel. But not to an extent. My boyfriend and me have been dating around 3 years now but at the beginning, i was a rebound girlfriend since he just broke up with his ex who lives far away from him but they still dated. Anyways she would always say stuff behind my back and it really hurt and i found him talking to her sort of teasing her sometimes on my space but nothing too major. But one day he told me that she wants him back and she has like a whole scheme planned out and it really hurt and it even hurts me now to talk about this :(





    But i was so upset but luckily she lived far away so she never did anything to get him back or anything. So that was okay and not like my bf wanted her anyways. However in your case its much worse and i would be constantly paranoid and worried what he may be up to and what she might be up to. Where does she live or go? is she in the same university as you?





    It all sounds so childish to me about his cousins and her starting that rumour that they are together etc and calling you mean things that's so immature. And i know they may have a history but it doesn't mean they are right for each other. But it sounds like you are always hurt since his ex will never stop stalking him! I would be so lost in your position. I think you should stop breaking up and making up. You just need to tell him to cut her off facebook and anything else since its clearly getting in the way of things and i think that's the only logical thing to do. If he doesn't want to then you need to leave him since in the end i think you will only be hurt.

    How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?

    I don't see how its possible for me to move on if I still wanna be with my ex bf. I get jealous even thinking of him with someone else. So how do you handle this???How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?
    Just reminding yourself they are not with you anymore doesn't always work. There are just some ex's you just can't be friends with anymore because well, sometimes the baseline feelings just don't go away for a long time. I don't think there is a need to be rude about it and yes maybe one day down the road a friendship will rebuild but for now your emotional health is priority one and the friendship with him is a distant second.How do you handle being just friends with your ex boyfriend when you still have feelings for them?
    However much you want to remain friends with your ex, it's sometimes really difficult because you both may need to be with someone else. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being friends, you just have to make sure you don't get too jealous if he starts seeing another girl. It's difficult straight after a break-up becasue your emotions change and there are bound to be those little things that remind you of being together. I was in a similar position and wanted to speak/see my ex but it didn't seem like he wanted to at that stage. Now i've sorted myself out a bit and feel like i can actually survive without him! Perhaps leave it a few weeks then see how you feel towards him. Good luck xxx
    i know exactly how you feel.


    my ex and i broke up not too long ago and i still have feelings for him.





    it's really up to you whether you wanna move on or not.





    if you do wanna move on i say:


    -try giving yourself space from him. it doesn't mean you have to totally ignore him, but try hanging out with a different group of friends if he's apart of your circle of friends


    -take some time for yourself, do things you used to do when you were single; reading, hobbies, etc.


    -friends! friends always help you through situations like these. rely on them to help you take your mind off of him





    if you wanna keep going for him:


    *yes, the breaking up part is the hardest stage to get over. but there are some things you can do in the healing process


    -give him some space. you both need it, which is why the breakup occurred in the first place. this'll give you both time to think things out and get back to a clear, mental state of mind


    -keep yourself busy; turn off your phone and just relax. sometimes you just need to get away from all the craziness in the world and just take some time for yourself





    i hope this helps!


    best wishes!
    Im in the same boat as you. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, yet he wants to be friends and I told him NO, because to me it's not going to help me to move on. I told him we can't be friends and better not to talk anymore, although I miss him very much but I know there's no point at all of being ';friends';, not at this point of time at least.


    Focus on yourself and don't even bother talking to him
    if you still have feelings with your ex and you wanna get over him, it is best that you set distance between the two of you. it would be better and faster for you to heal and move on. esp. if you think he doesn't want to get back with you.





    it would be an additional burden for you if you would keep in contact with him and you know you still love him.
    Give yourself some space away from him. It sounds like you are not giving yourself a chance to grieve for the relationship, and by hanging on as friends, maybe there is a tiny little hope inside that you might get back together again?





    You need to lose the love, and get used to just being friends. I don't know if it will work or not, but you owe it to yourself to heal.
    how can you mone own when you still sleep together? why did you sllep with him as you are not with him?


    %26amp; why you are not with him if you both have feelings?i dont untersrand........





    if you CAN be with him then OK, nice, if not then YOU have ot stop talking ot him ,or NOT to see him


    how you are now is really ont ok!!
    hmm...this is a tough one..lol..


    wat u can do is that u maintain to be NORMAL friends with him..and u should start meeting new guys..try making new frends..who knows? like that, u may develop a thing for other guy and u will start to forget ur ex..but remember, just act like normal friends..its for your own good..talk to him when he talks to you..
    I say you need to work on your jealousy. He's not your boyfriend, so you need to remind yourself of that.





    I'd say it's best you not contact him anymore or at least until you've gotten over him.
    Just watch snuggle bunny and you'll feel better. :) Seriously though just take things day by day, talk to him. Have a serious talk with him about both of your feelings and see where that goes.
    I'd just talk to him. Yall are buds, so just ask him about the breakup. Just say you still kinda like him.
    It's gonna be hard which is why you have to try doubly hard to ignore him. Even when you guys may be hanging out as friends..You can be with hanging with someone but still ignore them because your personality and focus at the time is not mirroring them.





    Eg. You guys are haning out and he's talking to you, and you're perky and bubbly and although you're listening you're also very aware of your surroundings, people passing by, a cute puppy...and he's talking and you cut him off and go that puppy is so cute!





    I'm not saying it has to be exactly like that but it's like you're hanging on his every word. He has your attention but not your focus.





    It is important that even if you don't feel that bubbly way to project that to him (don't go overboard that it's fake)because he'll see you as this bubbly, fun, great girl and start to wonder why he broke up with you.





    Of course this isn't a guarantee that he'll run back to your arms but it could make him see beyond whatever it is that caused you guys to break up and want to get back together or at the very least secure you a spot in his life as one of his best friends. That positive attitude also helps you to get over him because in time it won't be an act it will come naturally and that positive energy projects positive people.





    Good luck!





    as you are like ball of energy and happiness and so in love with life and the things around you.

    What does it mean when your ex girlfriend sends you a text message?

    Well me and my ex girlfriend got into another big argument over us not talking anymore. She broke up with me on New years and Ive tried keeping her as a friend but she seems not to want to. She is always telling me how I am nothing to her and etc. Well I told her that I understood and said to her that Iam going to stop know.Then last week on wednesday she txt me saying ';Listen to according to you';;) best song ever';. I didnt text her back but I listened to it but I dam well know that that is something I never ever felt towards her. Well on Friday I saw her because I was at her house cause of her mom and was washing the dishes for her. When I was done her mom told me thank you and I had my headphones on so i wouldnt hear my ex girlfriend or even look at her.My ex girlfriend had said thank you but I didnt hear her and continued walking to her bros room when her mom told me what she said. Then she comes in bugging her mom and I pretend to be doing something so that I dont look at her. I had the radio on but not loud and thats when she goes in the living room and plays that song ';accourding to you';. She just got me mad but I didnt say anything.Everytime Iam talking to her mom she makes a lil comment but by mumbleling it. I just dont know what else to think.What does it mean when your ex girlfriend sends you a text message?
    It;s time to stop hanging out at her house - I'm not sure what you are doing there exactly.





    Good job not responding to her text message - next time delete it before you read it so it won't bug you enough to listen to the song.





    Time to remove her from your life - her and her family.What does it mean when your ex girlfriend sends you a text message?
    Continue doing what your doing
    thats very sweet of u to do the dishes(: u sound pretty hot how old are you..im 13 haha well this girl is kinda retarded..she broke up with you. she sounds pretty controlling anyway. find someone new!
    She's crazy. Find a New One.
    She seems a bit strange to be honest, i think the best thing you can do is move on - but you wont be able to do this while you're still hanging out at her house! it sounds like shes not quite over you yet, (cos shes been texting u and inviting u round her house) so im sorry to say this but i think the best thing to do is to find someone else. Good luck x
    she is very immature. she broke up with you..she wants you to be devestaed. but obviously you are not, and that kills her.
    How old are you? She sounds very immature.. by my guess I say 8th grade or 9th..but yeah forget about her she's just trying to piss you off by making you feel like ****... not unless you treated her badly? Think about your past relationship with her and see how you treated her, maybe she's right. Ya never know. But if you think you did nothing wrong screw that crazy bit ch! :p Good luck bud.
    It means nothing and you think too much,she is lonely

    What to do if your ex-girlfriends best friend tells you she is in love with you & sabotaged your relationship?

    To make a long story short me and my ex broke up 6 months ago because I received pictures and a DVD of her cheating on me one day at my office. When I confronted her with this evidence she denied it and said she did not know who was lying on her and that the DVD was an old DVD of her and a past fling and she did not know where the pictures of her kissing the guy in the tape came from. A couple days later while I was doing hers and my laundry I found dirty men's boxers that were not mine given that we have our own laundry room and no males outside of me have been to our apartment in the past month and I do laundry every 3 days I just knew something was up with all of the odd calls I got one day when I was sick and suppose to be at work and on the one day I came home early the bed that I make every morning looked like 2 people had been in it and was left unmade. So at this point me and her split cause she couldn't take my accusation and I couldn't deal with her supposed lies and shady behavior. After the split her best friend gets a job at the insurance company next to my office. Since the split me and her have become pretty good friends and have gone to lunch a few times and she even has escorted me to a couple of company functions and have hung with me and my buddies I kind of figured she liked me but I am not trying to go there and make this split even worst on me cause my ex got married and I think she still loved me and me and me and friend would just make her even more mad and hurt her. So today while she was helping me move into my new home and after everybody leaves she ask if she could borrow my shower and change. So changes into this stunning outfit and and kisses me. I tell her how great she looks and I don't know if we should be going there do my recent break up with her friend. She said she understood but I didn't understand all the work she put in to getting us to this point. She then proceeds to tell me she loves me and that she intentially broke me and my ex up because she couldn't let a good man like me go to someone who didn't appreciate me and told me how she did everything and to give her a call after calm down from being mad at her. Do I call her and tell her how mess up she is? Or do I just ignore her and end our friendship? Or do I see where this could lead and then get my payback?





    What to do if your ex-girlfriends best friend tells you she is in love with you %26amp; sabotaged your relationship?
    You dont really have to start something by calling her and telling her off, unless you really feel you have to. DONT be friends with her, she sounds crazy. You should maybe apologise to your ex, and maybe tell her what is going on. That can be payback enough, since that girl is supossed to be her friend. Obviously your a good guy, and she is obviously not your type.What to do if your ex-girlfriends best friend tells you she is in love with you %26amp; sabotaged your relationship?
    Dude your stuck between a rock and a hard spot but I tell you what you ned to end the friendship and leave town she sounds like the stalker type
    Yikes! Have you ever seen the movie Fatal Attraction? This sounds like one of those. Sever all contact with this woman. She's a nut job!
    hi,


    she is evil.


    don't have anything to do with her ( not one single thing) she is too sleazy and instead of getting an opportunity for payback, she might be the one that will do you in. admit it she fooled u and your girlfriend without neither of you getting a hint.


    break the relationship dint even be friends with her or she might ruin your future relationships. if she is this obsessed and psycho to do this to her friend what do you think she would do to others if she remains your friend? bail out, NOW but be watchfull she might close in on you to mess you up for rejecting her. your work, house, reputation even your ex might be her next Target. if you notice anything mysteriously getting wrong, could be her on the move.


    meanwhile call your ex and appologise, tell her everything so she will beware of her evil supposed friend. she might still be a target in her new life cos her supposed friend is a saddist.


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  • How do you establish a friendship with your ex husband, when he feels hateful towards you? I love and miss him

    my husband wants a divorce, and it has been very difficult for me to deal with, i don't want a divorce because i stil love him very much, and want to work things out. but he doesn't want anything to do with me, doesn't even want to be freinds, which i think is very important, because we have 2 boys together, and we need to create some kind of friendship, for thier sake. I am feeling alone, and depressed, and tomarrow is our wedding annavarsarry(can't spell that word..lol) so, valentine's day is going to be a very depressing day for me, we would of been married for 6 years, and we're still legally married, waiting for divorce papers. please let me know, if you have any advice to get over this painful ordeal.How do you establish a friendship with your ex husband, when he feels hateful towards you? I love and miss him
    I know this will be hard....but write him a letter telling how much you love him, and how much you want it to work. don't give this letter to him mail it to him with out your name on it. After the letter don't push it any more let it go. no matter how much you want to cry...don't, don't let him see, only let him see you smile, and see you strong. If it still loves you, he still might need time to think, so don't push; the more you push the more he wants out. No matter how hard it is you; you have to live your life for you, not his life for you. Be strong wipe those teirs hugs your kids and give your self a kiss, and be thankful for another day of living. Believe it or not things will be ok with or with out him....just live your life for you.How do you establish a friendship with your ex husband, when he feels hateful towards you? I love and miss him
    This is far too complicated for a short answer on here if you provide your email I could posilbly help you....
    Probably you can't.





    If you can, by 1) not contesting the divorce he wants, 2) being patient, very patient -- it will take a long time and 3)moving on. If he sees that you aren't too needy he may relax, especially as you will have to deal in regards to the children.





    The best advice is, accept that you will be unhappy a bit, awhile, sometimes, and that you have to move on. You'll be happier sooner that way.
    Why did your husband want a divorce and why is he hateful towards you?
    Stop trying, it won't work. You need to move on with your life and be a good role model for your boys. They need a mother who is happy and independant, not someone who living in the past. Instead of dwelling on him for Valentine's day, spend it with your boys. My parents are divorced, and the best thing my mom did was to move on with her life. Your boys will be okay and they will adjust, and you will too. (By the way, when your ex-husband sees how independant or attractive you've become you move on and get over him, he might want you back - Don't fall for him, move on to someone who deserves you.)
    let it go it is for the best ive been married 18 yrs seperated 4 of them and havent spoke to him in 4 years, thats just how it goes things just dont work out you can do better

    How do you say no nicely when your ex wants to get back together ?

    i went out with him 2 years ago and now he wants to get back together but i dont like i didnt even like him when we went i just kinda didnt wanna be mean and say but it was a big mistake cuz we were like the bestest of friennds and then we werent becuz i broke up w/ him . i dont wanna go back out but idk how to say it nicelyy helpppHow do you say no nicely when your ex wants to get back together ?
    Just tell him that you don't have feelings for him that way and you don't want to hurt his feelings and your friendship by patronising him and going into a one way relationship.





    It would not be far to either of you. Also point out that he deserves a girl you cares for him like he cares for her.





    Hope this helps.How do you say no nicely when your ex wants to get back together ?
    Tell him you like what the two of you have as friends and you don't want to ruin it. Let him know that you felt things weren't good before but they're better now. It's a thing of respect and you should say that. If you didn't respect and care about him, you would go back with him without a thought. Let him know that. He might understand. Good luck. ';-)
    just tell him no guy like myself have to hear it BLUNTLY so be nice and say its not going to work out and say goodbye.

    Guy needs your help!!! how often to call ex gf even thou she calls me?

    my ex gf broke up with me about a month ago. I begged her back knowing it was not the right thing to do bec no one wants a needey person i dont think. well itry not to call her but sometimes its hard not to. its not that im a bad person its i just realy love her and want to get back, what we use to have. she tells me there is not going to be an us but then she will call wanting me to do something for her. i do it bec i love her but its geting me no were. At the same time i feel bad if i dont and she will think, i dont care and mabe give up on us if she has noit already. She is kinda giving me mixed signals. Or im just so in love with her that i think, there is a chance. i dont k,now how often to call or should i?should i awnser every time she call? if i dont do i make something up? i just want a girl that has broke up with a guy and she still cared for him what they would like. i might have been a little up her a## to much before we broke up. just want a girl to giv me some ideas?Guy needs your help!!! how often to call ex gf even thou she calls me?
    .Think you should move on.She knows she's got you hooked.By contacting you,for little favors.By all means return her calls but don't be so anxious to please her.lt's a two way street

    Would you support your pregnant ex-girlfriend if she cheated on you?

    Let's say, you broke up with your ex (dating for only two months) because she cheated on you with two other men. A month later she came forward and said that she was pregnant by you, but the date the baby was conceived was right around the cheating/breaking up. There is a possible chance the baby may or may not be yours and she won't be able to find out until after birth.





    Would you support her during her pregnancy or wait until she has proof on how the real daddy is? What of the fallowing would you/should you do for her or not?


    -Taking her to her doctor appointments, picking out the right doctor, finding the right hopsital for birth, birthing classes


    -Buying food for her


    -Buying materinty clothes for her


    -Giving her free rides (to like the grocery store, friends house, etc)


    -Helping with the baby shower


    -Helping her with rent





    Would the fact that she doesn't have any income or that if she didn't get help she may be homeless cause you to help her out more, even after she lied and cheated on you.





    Thanks!Would you support your pregnant ex-girlfriend if she cheated on you?
    we'll first of all no second of all no and third of all where the hell are the other guys this stupid **** slept with r they chipping in?Would you support your pregnant ex-girlfriend if she cheated on you?
    If I was the guy I would definitely wait to find out if it was mine. There will be plenty of child support for the next 18 years, no need to be hasty and start doing all this work and giving money for a child that maybe isn't his and a cheating ex that obviously had no respect for him.
    Regardless of who the father is, do you love her and the baby enough to support them? Nevermind the circumstances. The lives of two other people are at stake. Can you put aside your hurt feelings, forgive and take responsibility? I'm not saying you must support them, but would it be a crime to do so?
    If I were a guy and this BS happened to me, I don't think I would rush into helping her @ all till AFTER that baby was here and DNA proved it was mine. And then I would b in the courthouse THAT day 2 file 4 custody! She sounds like a real troll! And don't tell me that she is going to b homeless. Welfare wont allow her to b. They will bump her up to the front of any list (bcuz she is up the duff) and she will b fine! Let her go to the other guys that this kid might b and have them help her out now! See if they will jump to it! Bet they don't either!
    Hoestly, I think it might be sufficient to pick out a doctor and maybe give her like $150 a week or something until you know for sure if the babies yours. Also, I believe theres a test where they can actually determine paternity while the woman is still pregnant so maybe you or your friend or whatever can check into that

    Ladies honestly! what do you think?

    what should i do to keep my ex gf thinking about me as if she should have taken me back. dated for 3 years. broke up for 6 months with no contact but she new i wanted her back but i should have given her time. I tried to get back with her...texted and called her recently around valentines day. i asked her out to dinner she said she would but backed out saying she was sick. havent spoke to her in 3 weeks. sent her flowers recently with a note ';thinking of you';. she still has not respond. honestly ladies what is the best thing i should do to really show her i was a great guy and that i still love her. i dont want her to think im a stalker, i just want her to realize i have alot to offer to her now and realized a really hard lesson.





    plus how often do you think about your ex even though you havent spoke to them?Ladies honestly! what do you think?
    forget her move on. find someone else and she will be back.%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;Ladies honestly! what do you think?
    I can not answer as to what she feels for you, but she is clearly asking you for some space. Send her a note telling her to call you when SHE is ready and meanwhile move on with your own life. I'm not saying find another girlfriend necessarily, but get busy with things that interest you so that you are not always thinking of her.





    I very rarely think of my ex unless I run into a mutual aquaintance or something along that nature.





    Sorry if it's not what you want to read, but you did ask for honesty.
    the best thing to do is to stop calling her txting her and sending her things because she probably is enjoying all of that and she is probably so used to that already so if you stop doing all that... that will get her thinking that maybe you got tired and you gave up already so just give her some time and ignore her and she will be the one calling you sooner or later...trust me this happened to me!! not until i realized that he wasnt there anymore.. i started calling him!! and wanting him back good luck!!
    honestly; let her qo. it SUCKS to think about.. but if she wanted to be with you she would :[ my ex is just like you and we went out over a year. But i can never think of him as when we went out.





    im sorry to tell you :[
    Usually when I break up with someone not by circumstance (moving, etc) I cut them out for good. I never think about them, if only for a passing moment and they have no chance of getting back with me. The fire's gone. Honestly I think it's time to forget about her, there are plenty of other women out there who will see just how much you have to offer. Me, I live by the rule: If you can reach her, then she can reach you. If she hasn't, then she didn't want to.





    I know it's hard even though you still love her. Regardless I would just get out there %26amp; live life.





    If you really want to give it one more chance call her and directly tell her what you want. She will probably give you the answer to your question.
    how often do you think about your ex even though you havent spoke to them?


    It depends on how strong the realtionship was. If I was into him and even if I still don't like him at least once a week.





    You need to write her a long heartfelt letter. Just give it to her. She won't be abel to help but read it. When you think it's a good time txt her ';What did you think of the letter?'; if she still dosen't respond I know it's hard but you'll have to move on.
    okay. so i see where your coming from. i've been the girlfriend in this sittuation and trust me, she just wants you to leave her alone. you should move on. It's obvious she's avoiding you and you dont deserve that kind of disrespect. so i say you should let her go and move on. She'll notice you more when she notices your not bothering her anymore.








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  • Ladies be completely honest...what?

    should i do to keep my ex gf thinking about me as if she should have taken me back. dated for 3 years. broke up for 6 months with no contact but she new i wanted her back but i should have given her time. I tried to get back with her...texted and called her recently around valentines day. i asked her out to dinner she said she would but backed out saying she was sick. havent spoke to her in 3 weeks. sent her flowers recently with a note ';thinking of you';. she still has not respond. honestly ladies what is the best thing i should do to really show her i was a great guy and that i still love her. i dont want her to think im a stalker, i just want her to realize i have alot to offer to her now and realized a really hard lesson.





    plus how often do you think about your ex even tho it didnt work out?Ladies be completely honest...what?
    heres what you do pretend your over it , go out with other girls.. shes bound to be jealouse .. trust me. ive expiernced it my ex wanted em back and i said no .. now hes dating again and i feel terrible i want him back NOW!!Ladies be completely honest...what?
    Aww shes lucky, I wish I had a guy crazy about me like u r crazy for her. If she is not opening up to u, move on...

    How do you get your ex-boyfriend to just back off!?

    i mean, come on! we were on again off again couples and i found out he was cheating on me before on one of our on-again off-again relationship and i dumped him. FOR GOOD! so why does he keep coming back? i see him flirting with so many girls its not even funny. what do i say to get the message in his head that i DO NOT like him?How do you get your ex-boyfriend to just back off!?
    How about with a doubled barrel shot gun?How do you get your ex-boyfriend to just back off!?
    be real wit he tell him how u feel with out making it sound so bad
    heck you got a bad prob ...tellhim straight up just to scare him if you dont back off i will call the cops
    More than likely he thinks its been on again off again before, he figures its ok to be on when he pleases. You have to make sure he understands you dont like him anymore, if he doesnt understand words a restraining order may help.
    He keeps coming back how? In your face? If he calls, block his number, block is email, put a stop to whatever contact you are getting from him. If he's bothering you in person, threaten to get a restraining order...make it clear that you're done with the relationship and if he needs the cops to help him understand that, you're quite capable of dialing their number.
    well..SLAP him on the face will be nice...hehehehe!if that still doent work..ask your friend with a big body to tell him...problem solved...
    A big dog...





    or lacking that, a new, really big boyfriend.





    :-)
    out of site is out of mind. Avoid him and he'll eventually get the hint. Remember one thing, everyone wants what they can't have. Trust me, you NOT wanting him is an even bigger turn on than if you did want him. You could try sending him a video tape of you and some other guy Paris H. Style. That might give him the little hint you are trying to give him.
    Tell that ***** to **** off cause you are to old to play with kids.LOL
    restraining order ....

    How do you get over an ex boyfriend who your still in love with?

    I dated a guy for almost 4 years off and on and he broke up with me over Christmas. I thought i would be ok but I haven't stopped thinking about him and even though other guys have asked me out I have no interest in them because I am still in love with my ex. and even though we talk all the time and he says he loves me he says he doesn't ever want to be with me again. Help Please!?How do you get over an ex boyfriend who your still in love with?
    If you need to heal your best medicine is to find someone else. To get over him, Eliminate things that remind you of him and get occupied by concentrating on your future and doing activities that keep you busy. Go out and date other guys if you can, hang out with friends and belief this: Give others a chance..at least to get to know you. Don't get stuck yourself to loving someone who says he doesn't ever want to be with you again. Chances are he is saying that because you have been acting a little desperate..this is normal and people who have been broken hearten do that all the time.


    Do not lose hope, Love is blind and sometimes people who hurt other don't understand that they need to be kind to them in steady of degrading them. You are a special person in your own ways and if he doesn't want to be with you, someone else will. So accept it and give other a chance..ok?...good luckHow do you get over an ex boyfriend who your still in love with?
    Being haunted by a broken relationship is some times difficult and the first reaction is to run away and pretend the feelings do not exist. That feeling of emotion that overwhelms you at any moment and plunges you into grief and memory of the past. Images return and unwanted thoughts appear. The ghost returns and can't handle simple tasks. This is a sign of depression and when prolonged we will get trapped by the grieving process.





    The feeling of anger, sadness, fear, denial and depression are the result of a loss of someone that you love. Moving on to a healthy new life is based on how we respond to these feelings.
    You need to cut ties all together. Keeping in touch with him and having him tell you he loves you but doesn't want to be with you may be making things worse for you. This communication with your ex is confusing you. In this situation 'love' is NOT enough. Move on with your life and find someone that actually wants to be with you and loves you. Does that make any sense. Good luck!
    i'm almost in the same situation. we were together for about three months. he dumped me back in december. it's been almost 5 months and i realized yesterday that i'm still not over him. he won't talk to me tho. actually, he won't go near me or look me in the face. somehow i still miss him and want him back even tho i know it's not going to happen. only time will help. it might be better to talk to him less or not at all so that you won't be as connected to him and can move on a little faster
    He wont get back together with you- especially if he has started seeing other people.





    You need to get back out there and start seeing other people. Once you've found another person and you're close with them you wont think about your old ex like this.
    you need to stop talking to him. being a guy, i understand where he might be coming from..the only way to get over someone is to stop communicating altogether. get rid of him off your facebook, e-mail, and phone.
    hun stop talking to him and realise that hes not worth it.. get over him move on.. dont speak to him..should hate him for hurting you like that.. am in da same situation...good luck....xx p.s i hate my ex:)
    find someone new dont mourn and be depressed your wasting your time over someone not even worth it your only truley over someone when you let someone new into your heart
    It takes time, it really sucks, but time heals EVERYTHING. Believe me.


    I'm sorry

    Guys and Girls. what do you HONESTLY think about this?

    my ex was talking to me {i had a boyfrined at the time} and said he loves cares about me and all that love stuff...then a few days later he has a girlfriend...and he cant make the excuse that i had a boyfriend cause he KNEW i would choose him over my b.f. ANYDAY...





    so is he over me? is he trying to get over me? did he move on? is he trying to make me jealous? he has stuff all over his myspace bout her saying he loves her and stuff and it took us bout 5 months to that to eachother.





    ALSO is he has all that love stuff about her and she does too,


    is it possible he doesnt really feel that way and hes just putting an act and stuff? can i get him back? do i have chance with him again?





    please help...how do i deal with him and his new g.f.? even tho hes ';supposebly'; in love with her...do i still have a chance?





    GUYS: do you still think about your ex even tho just a few days before you got with your new g.f. you were talking to her.


    by the way he doesnt call or text me anymore EVER.Guys and Girls. what do you HONESTLY think about this?
    Sorry to say this, but I think it is truely time to move on. If you two were meant for each other, then you will find each other once again. Otherwise time to find someone else.Guys and Girls. what do you HONESTLY think about this?
    Move on, he already has, I'm sorry. If he were putting an act to make you jealous, he would have contacted you already. It's very simple, if a guy wants to be with you, he will be with you. He is with her now, which means he wants to be with her, not you.





    I'm sorry.
    ';That was then and this is not';, it looks like loving you was easy, when he had no option, now he's got a choice and guess what?....... ';you loose';!!


    Kinda say's something for the type of guy he is and how quick you ask ';how high';, when he yells, jump!!!


    It doesn't matter how long it took him to get that far with you. She's not you!!


    Could be the thrill of a new relationship or that he's more infatuated with her, than he was with you.


    You need to move on either way. What's brokens, broken, things start looking pretty tacky, when they've been glued to too often.
    he sounds completely confused, don't even bother with him, he is playing you, get over him, let him be a thing of the past , stay with your current bf as long as he treats you right.
    He doesn't mean a word he's saying. He has the attention span of a goldfish and in whatever situation, he says what sounds good in that situation. He doesn't even remember the next day, I'll bet. Why you would even want ';another chance with him'; is beyond me. You must be one of those people who love wasting their lives on pointless non-relationships.
    i still have feelings for my ex wife but i decided to move on with my life because i wanted to be happy and she's moved on with hers and im happy for her so you really need to move on and find someone that will make you happy after all every girl deserves to be happy
    Who really decided? It sounds like you kicked him and he got you back with her. If that's the only communication youve had with him, he isnt coming back, and I dont blame him.
    WOW ,Too complicated! Move on! You are thinking too much! Good Luck!
    He wants to play with both of you. And he will if you let him. Don't trust him. He is just playing into both your emotions to see how far he can go with you both. He's not really giving himself to either one of you. Just enough to make you want to come back for more. Don't do it. You know how it will turn out.
    I honestly think you're in the wrong section. This is marriage/divorce.
    Sweetie, you asked for honest and here it is. You're still dating, and you should value yourself enough to not even THINK about a guy who's seeing someone else, no matter what he says. If he really cared about you that much, he wouldn't be seeing another girl.


    Also, stop reading his myspace page. It will only drive you batty.


    Best wishes to you.
    Oops, sorry. I strayed into the ';singles %26amp; dating'; forum by mistake. I usually answer questions in married/divorce section. My mistake.
    Move on unless he just hasn't had time to get an old girlfriend off his myspace.





    Not calling you is a bad sign find someone who adores you.

    How do you choose between your ex lover and your husband when you love them both?

    I have been married for 3 years, I have a 4 year old son with my husband. I have an ex, recently came back into my life. He wants me to leave my usband and be with him. My husband works hard and I know he loves me even though he never shows it. We fight alot, he slept with one of my friends and then hid it from me for 3 months, now she's pregnant and I don't know if its his, there is a week and half difference in time. I am trying to forgive him but I can't get over what he did. My ex came back into my life, but I don't hear from him until he calls and I can't reach him when I need someone to talk to. What we had was hard, it is a difference in location that tore us apart. But I feel there is something he is hiding to. Can anyone help me?How do you choose between your ex lover and your husband when you love them both?
    Sounds like you can really pick the winners there. Too bad for your child. My advice would be that you get away from all of them and restart your life with your child the best you can.How do you choose between your ex lover and your husband when you love them both?
    Move to Salt Lake City, UT, and marry them both. So that way nobody gets hurt.





    Threesomes anyone?
    Yea, like the fact of his being committed or married to somebody else. You are married, and no matter what your husband has done, until you get a divorce, you are cheating and need to get your act together. You are doing tit for tat and that won't solve anything with your marriage. So, as far as forgiving your husband, he may have that same issue to contend with if he ever finds out about what you are doing. Leave the so call lover alone, and work on your marriage if you want to keep your family. You are only a b___y call to him anyway from what you've said.
    And you wonder why the divorce rate is so high in the world.





    So, you think your husband cheated on you with one of your friends, right? Was this before or after your ex popped back into the picture?





    It sounds like you were too young to get married in the first place, and have no clue what love or a marriage is all about. I'm sorry if this is point blank and direct, but there is no way for me to tap dance around this one.





    Your ex is an ex for a reason. Stick by that. It only sounds like a booty call to me. But, if you really, really, really have to be with him, then leave your husband.





    Go do the easiest thing in the world and walk away from your problems and responsibilities. Why not, everyone else in the world does, right?





    You never said in your question that you love you husband. I think what you didn't say speaks louder than what you did say.





    Do what you want. Just remember that you have to live with that decision.
    Forget both of them. There are alot of nice guys out there. What you have to do is focus on loving yourself and being happy by yourself. Give yourself some time apart from both of them. You need to find yourself.
    well hrm.. i was already to say.. dont' marriage vows mean anything anymore??


    but then you said your husband cheated on you...


    doesn't sound like your relatioship with your husband is very good at all.. maybe its time to re look at that. .. see if something you can work on..


    but i don't think you should leave your husband for this other guy.. maybe some time on your own will help you out..
    you choose your husband because you married him and made a vow to forsake all others.
    Both relationships sound pretty crappy- And after what your husband did, if you can not forgive him (never bring it up again, be able to trust him again) then leave. He also sounds borderline abusive, and the ex, might just be pursing something that is familar, keeping you strung around until he has some thing else come through.
    Wow, this sounds complicated. This is what I would do if I were in your situation. I would leave your current husband...marriage is a sacred vow between two people, cheating just is not accepted...then I would spend some time alone to focus on my life and spend time with my child and get back on my feet....if your ex really loves you, they will come back into your life, if not, then you are better off w/out the both of them!! I'm sorry you are going through this, time will heal your heart :)
    boyfriend is mostlikely involved or has a wife, thats why u can't get ahold of him. husband also has betrayed your trust. u know the devil u got, but u don't know what is going on with the ex, suppose u do leave hubby for ex, feeling justified because of hubby's cheating. but than what if all isn't as u think it is with ex, than you are really in a mess. i would stay with hubby, and give him a chance, maybe go for some counciling. ex is hiding things, and u know when someone can't be reached that they have a secret about why, that there is mostlikely another woman involved.
    you're married now. stay with your husband. you need to forgive him. probably not exactly what you want to hear but you guys need to work things out. you can't help who you are attracted to but you choose who you love. there is no excuse for cheating. you also have a child-- your life is no longer your own.
    At this point you need to leave both ALONE.....your husband sounds trifling, and your ex sounds sneaky....find a new man PRONTO

    How do I know if my girlfriend is cheating on me?

    Me and my girlfriend have been together off and on for 7 months now. It is both of ours first Gay relationship so where very new to it. During that time she has had a very strong relationship with her ex fiance. They were together for 3 years and then he broke up with her and she got with me 4 months later. He moved in to live with her at her mums house when they were together and when she moved away to university he still lived there and still lives there now even though they have broken up. There very close and he comes to visit her at university all the time and they sleep in the same bed. And when shes on holiday from uni, she goes back home and hes there and they sleep in the same bed. He has made it very clear that he wants to be with her still and is still in love with her but she say that she doesn't feel the same and she just sees him as a friend. She is constantly flirting with him, and i feel that if you know hes still in love with you why would you allow him to be around you all the time. He told her that he doesnt like her talking to me while hes around, cause when hes there he wants to have her to himself, and she kind of listens. When I ask her why, she says its because she cares alot about him and cause hes still in love with her she doesnt want to hurt his feelings. She says she loves me and only me, but the thing is shes a christian and has been fighting her feelings for me since the beginning and about 5 months ago, she broke up with me because of it and tried to get back with her ex, but it didnt last very long. I have no doubt in my mind that she loves me, but do you think that shes trying to fight her feelings for me with her ex? Do you think that you can just be platonic with your ex even when you know that he is still in love with you?How do I know if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
    You should break it off until she can commit only to you and maybe not even then. Sleeping in the same bed as her ex is not cool even if they're not having sex, it's an intimate act in itself that can only cause you pain. If she can't see that and cares more about his feelings than yours then she doesn't deserve you.How do I know if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
    sorry but i dont think she loves you at all


    she puts his feelings before yours but doing what he asks and not speaking to you while he's there


    i wouldn't put up with my partner sharing a bed with there ex regardless of what sex they were!
    Hmm broken up, think she might just be 'experimenting' Hes living in her house, they share a bed when together. Don't be naive, you are getting played.
    You already know the answer...she sleeps in the same bed as him?...who are you trying to convince that she's not getting laid?...us or you?!!
    well still sleeping in a bed with him isnt right if she says she doesnt love him anymore, gay or not you dont sleep in a bed with your ex, and why is he still living at her mums house? i think shes confused, she loves you but it seems she still loves him to, so are you willing to share her, or just put up with this? she maybe confused of being gay and doesnt know what to do, but i wouldnt put up with it as it isnt fair on you talk to her, but if its still like this in a month id move on

    Taurus women ..lets be logical?

    ok so everytime someone posts a question asking how to get an ex back. You always get a stupid astrological response. That's not even completely accurate. So let's be logical......


    If you have ended a relationship with a taurus badly? .....(* everyone knows no one ever cuts complete ties with your ex.... even if its just one time you spoke after the break up .... that was your first chance and. If you didn't make a good impression that time...you blew it*) .... so back to miss taurus


    Wouldn't it be logical ,while you are seperated to put your best foot forward and make a change in yourself for the better ...specifically something that miss taurus looked down upon during the relationship??? ... that would be a way to get a taurus back... my opinion.... but what's yours on this theory?? Please share. :)Taurus women ..lets be logical?
    Give her a chocolate fondue set and she'll love you forever =DTaurus women ..lets be logical?
    why is this for taurus women?? and i dont get your question

    How would u feel & what would u do if your ex befriended the people who robbed, beat, & sent u 2 emergencyroom?

    I was ';jumped'; and beaten up my 4 teens. They are neighbors/aquaintances of my ex. They live like 5 houses apart from him.





    I was robbed of $200, sent to the ER by ambulance covered in blood from head-to-toe. All my clothes ruined. I got a dislocated shoulder which will take 3 months to heal with physical therapy, a facial laceration which will scar for life, a black eye, a broken battered nose, and now I have post-tramatic stress disorder, etc





    The thing is, my ex saw me bleeding at the gas station 5 minutes after I was assaulted. He saw the cashier calling 911, but he didnt even bother to wait with me for the ambulance to arrive.





    He said '; i have to work tomorrow'; and left me!! I passed out on the gas station floor 5 minutes later.





    Now it's 1 week later and I find out my ex invited the same people responsible for my assault to his house to smoke weed, and hang out!





    Why would he do that?





    My ex says '; i dont know what happened and whos responsible for your assault'; so i can hang out with whomeber i want....even though I told my ex several times exactly whoes responsible for my beating.





    WTF is going on with him? We dated on-and-off for a year, and he knows i fell in love with him. He use t ocall 10 times a day ,and now he does this?





    I know my ex has benn diagnosed with bipolar-1 (and minor schizoaffective disorder) but my God!





    How would you feel if you sustained so much pain, financial loss, and time lost through physical therapy...and then your ex starts sharing laughs about my assault with the people who assaulted me!





    Anyways, what would you do..and how would you feel?How would u feel %26amp; what would u do if your ex befriended the people who robbed, beat, %26amp; sent u 2 emergencyroom?
    He is your ex and he obviously doesn't have any feelings for you anymore, so I advise you to stay away from him and his friends. There is no need for you to even speak to him. His actions spoke louder than any words could have %26amp; they told you that he feels no responsibility for you or to you at all anymore. He is obviously a person without a conscience. You are better off without him. Be careful, stay away from those people and always go places with a friend or in a group. Take care of yourself and focus on getting well and healing your body and mind. Put him out of your mind first, then you will start to heal. Good luck to you and take care. I'm sorry you had to experience such an awful thing.How would u feel %26amp; what would u do if your ex befriended the people who robbed, beat, %26amp; sent u 2 emergencyroom?
    I would like to say such things as that my wrath would feast upon their entrails and that their eyes would be plucked from their faces in a flurry of bloodlust, but that wouldn't be true really.





    What i would want, however, is for those people to stay the f*ck away from me.
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    Me and my girlfriend have been together off and on for 7 months now. It is both of ours first Gay relationship so where very new to it. During that time she has had a very strong relationship with her ex fiance. They were together for 3 years and then he broke up with her and she got with me 4 months later. He moved in to live with her at her mums house when they were together and when she moved away to university he still lived there and still lives there now even though they have broken up. There very close and he comes to visit her at university all the time and they sleep in the same bed. And when shes on holiday from uni, she goes back home and hes there and they sleep in the same bed. He has made it very clear that he wants to be with her still and is still in love with her but she say that she doesn't feel the same and she just sees him as a friend. She is constantly flirting with him, and i feel that if you know hes still in love with you why would you allow him to be around you all the time. He told her that he doesnt like her talking to me while hes around, cause when hes there he wants to have her to himself, and she kind of listens. When I ask her why, she says its because she cares alot about him and cause hes still in love with her she doesnt want to hurt his feelings. She says she loves me and only me, but the thing is shes a christian and has been fighting her feelings for me since the beginning and about 5 months ago, she broke up with me because of it and tried to get back with her ex, but it didnt last very long. I have no doubt in my mind that she loves me, but do you think that shes trying to fight her feelings for me with her ex? Do you think that you can just be platonic with your ex even when you know that he is still in love with you?How do I know if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
    **** tomas. Be who you wanna be. I've had a lotta ex's, but i have never been able to have a friendly relationship with any of them. i;m not necessarily saying she's cheating, but if my girlfriend were to sleep with another man, or another female, even if they didnt have sex, i would be a lil suspicious. i hope you're not a victim of cheating here, cuz i know first hand it sucks to be in that position, and i hope you dont end up there. Hope I helpedHow do I know if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
    Get a life. find a guy !! be normal !!
    If you can麓t beat em join em !
    just be yourself!!

    How can get my ex girlfriend back even she has fallen in love with somebody else and i tried and promised?

    I tried and promissed allmost everything in the past to her and got a lot of chances from her but i messed them up, and now i miss her so badly but she told me had fallen in love with somebody else, right at the first sight,ad he is her dreammate, what do you think will there be chance for me in the future to get her back, i even asked her to mary me on our last meeting , she told me she just returned from an other man, and shes gotta do to hurt me even more by telling ,me so, what is your suggestion, even if i know that i am maybe foolish but i miss her so badly and would do anything to proove my honesty to her and get her back , makes it sense to stay in contact with her somehow and wait maybe she changes her mind, or shall i let it go and never make a try, what try could i make...to proove that i truly love i appreciate your answers , i know i act like a fool but i dont what to do i made up my mind too late but i know now she is the only woman of my life, but she turned her back oHow can get my ex girlfriend back even she has fallen in love with somebody else and i tried and promised?
    there are no rules in relationships except those we set for ourselves,,your ex decided after many disappointments from you,that enough was enough so you cannot argue the fact she has every right to try dating different people,,you had your shot(s) and as you say,,blew all of them,,this to me would seem you didnt care enough about her when you had her,,suddenly deciding now that she is the one is all fine and dandy but why should she not date another man,,one who hasnt yet hurt her and may never hurt her,,doesnt she deserve some happiness and stability rather than uncertainty from you and your behaviour,,sit back,wish her well and make it clear you will wait,,,,,you may be waiting a long time but during that time i would suggest trying to be a man,,a grown-up,,one who knows what he wants and sticks to it,,she may give you another chance if she can see how you have changed but this you must do for you ,not her,,,someday there may be another woman and unless you grow up you will have this problem all over again.How can get my ex girlfriend back even she has fallen in love with somebody else and i tried and promised?
    Move on and learn from your mistakes. Stop beating a dead horse.
    wow. well, if she really has a boyfriend. but she might be lying to you just to get rid of you. i'd say just ask her you guys could be friends and keep in contact.
    May be never; and I am sorry to say that.
    You got a lot of chances and messed them up. What's she supposed to think? She's tired of the empty promises.





    You had better learn from this. I say leave her alone and move on.
    Move on. She gone count your loses and forget about. learn from your mistakes though
    why do u hurt her so much? get over her n let her be carried by the wind n c other guys who wud less likely mess with her!
    It wouldn't be right for me to answer that .....because you may end up in Leavenworth.
    I think you should leave well enough alone and hope that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Remember whats meant for you wont pass you by. may take some time but if your constantly in the fold then she may get ticked off. good luck!

    How Can You Tell If Your Ex Might Still Have Feelings For You?

    Hi, I have a major problem. Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago, but at the same time I'm still not over him completely. We were together for about 6 months and he was my first boyfriend. While many may say that it's understandable to still feel down, I know for myself that the only reason why I'm still having a hard time getting over him and talking to him is because we both were truly in love with each other. Ever since we broke up, we haven't really talked much.(well actually it seems more as if we haven't talk at all.) This is because I am the type of person who is very sensitive and if hurt by that person will find it hard to talk or even be around them. While we may not be talking much, I can't help it but to still think about him everyday. I will have days were I would want him back and then days were I don't. But deep down inside I know I still have feelings for him. Which is why it's hard for me to talk to him. He's also acts like this around me.(oh, we are both in HS.)How Can You Tell If Your Ex Might Still Have Feelings For You?
    go up and kiss him and see what happens hehe

    How do you handle custody when your ex girlfriend hates you?

    My ex girlfriend is 6 months pregnant and she still hates me because of the fact that I responded so horribly to the pregnancy, I even pushed her in the beginning. I have since sought counseling for my anger problems.


    She hates my guts, she wont even let me go to her doctor appointments with her or at least the ultrasounds, she went into labor last week and she didn't even call me to at least be there for our daughter.


    When my daughter is born, I don't wan't to miss a day of her life, I even want to be there for my ex.


    Since my ex will be breastfeeding I cant take my daughter overnight or for long periods of time.


    I want to be able to see my daughter everyday of her life and I dont want to miss a minute.


    In short, how do I get my ex to understand that. I know my ex is afraid of me and hates my guts, but how do you handle issues like these? How do I get to see my child everyday since she will be with her mother everyday who hates me!


    Ive gotten a lawyer and because she will be nursing the courts do not separate the mother and child, because she is aware of my anger problem she does not want me around the baby alone!


    My attorney said that I could have supervised visitation but it would not be the same that I want.How do you handle custody when your ex girlfriend hates you?
    Do the small things for her and your baby, its not that she hates you its that you lost her trust. You could've killed your unborn child and you are very lucky you did.

    Is this normal after breaking up with someone you've been with for a few years?

    My bf of 3 years broke up in the beginning of January. And it ended badly after I told him that him keeping me from being friends with a guy who I only saw as a friend and nothing more was not right. He snapped and yelled ';Get the **** out of here! I never wanna see you again!!'; with the look in his eye that said I could hit your right now. Then slammed the door right behind me. The only time I've cried was the drive home after he threw me out but since then I have yet to shed a single tear and moved on with my life pretty quickly even after my ex tried so hard to get back with me for a month after that. Well it's been three months and I've met quite a few guys since then and they fall really fast for me for some reason and I have no clue why. They're all really nice guys but I honestly just don't see them to be more than friends. They continue to try to pursue me and that just gets me to to pull away even more and then start thinking about my ex and miss him because I can't find a connection at all with these nice guys the way I had with my ex. I hate that I start missing him though because of how it ended and how angry he got and a bit of controlling/jealous he was in our whole relationship. Right now though I honestly don't want a relationship for awhile and just want to be surrounded by my friends but its really hard to get that through these nice guys and I feel bad because the last thing I want is for them to get there hopes up. So yea for all those who have been in long relationships is it normal for you to start missing your ex even if they've put you through a lot? Sorry for the length! I appreciate all the answers!!!Is this normal after breaking up with someone you've been with for a few years?
    It is completely normal to miss them, no matter how they treated you. I was in a five year relationship with a guy who cheated on me, hit me and completely controlled me. It took me a very long time to get over him. That's how it is in those relationships when the guy controls you. Were there times in the relationship that were awesome? We will always remember the good times and miss them. Don't worry you will some day be ready to date again. Let's just hope you aren't one of the many who are attracted controlling guys...don't pass up the nice guys forever. Take care and just have fun.Is this normal after breaking up with someone you've been with for a few years?
    Of course it's normal to miss him. I mean come on you were together for 3 years that's a long time. If you don't want a relationship make it clear to them in the beginning that way you were honest. As far as your ex goes maybe this break will good for him so he can see what has to change within himself to be a better person. Good Luck
    despite the length, i really first want to say i am really sorry that you were treated like that and I am proud of you for not going back after he came back after a month because what he did was really immature!...........let him grow up maybe you guys are meant to be but when he gets a bit older.......also if he did that now, what would he do when you guys get married? Would he give you a divorce or throw you out and keep the kids with him? Is he serious? Does he not have any control over his anger?





    Why cant u have guy friends?.......but it may have been partly ur fault if u gave him wrong signals or if ur guy friend liked u cuz like u sed ppl fall pretty easily for u so ur bf was politely asking u babe can u not talk to him? it might have been ur safety? cuz he cares and he didnt want to lose u?





    Honestly if you cant feel the same for any other guy there is a reason for that......maybe cuz u and ur ex are meant to be and u guys have this connection





    Remember everyone makes mistakes we are all human and plus its not like he CHEATED on u or HIT u.......he just slammed the door right? but did u come back home and apologize and try to understand him? Atleast he didnt beat u and kick u out ...the man just needed alone time and if u really knew him and understood him then u shudve calmed him down and explained to him





    i mean REALLY? who was more important ....your relationship with your friend or your boyfriend?





    sadly u chose ur friend.............but there is still a knot or linkage with u and ur bf which u have to tighten again which is why u are not able to move on becuz u cant leave sumthing behind if it is not meant to be left behind........





    Good luck.

    How do you get your ex to like you again ? Please help x?

    i still like my ex and basically i wanna get back with him even tho i was the on who got dumped. but i dunno how i could get him back got any ideas pleaseee helpp xHow do you get your ex to like you again ? Please help x?
    That's hard to do because once he has made up his mind you can't change it usually!How do you get your ex to like you again ? Please help x?
    well, you probably don't want to here this.


    i wouldn't either.


    but, you should talk to him about it.


    or, pull the elementary.


    have a friend find out non-shalantly.
    Never try to get your ex back! They're your ex for a reason. Especially if they broke up with you. Maybe if he wanted to get back with you, but you'll make a fool of yourself trying to get someone who obviously didn't want you anymore.
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  • 25 things your wife or girlfriend will never say?

    1. You know, I've been complaining a lot lately. I don't blame you for ignoring me.


    2. I know I'm sore and my parents are in the other room, I still want you right now!


    3. This porno scene is boring, fast forward to the gang bang.


    4. Don't get up, I kinda like sleeping in the wetspot.


    5. Don't dirty up your T-shirt wiping that up, use my blouse.


    6. That was fun, when will all of your friends be over to watch pornos again?


    7. I bet it would be kinky to watch you with our baby-sitter Tracy.


    8. You're my daddy! You're my daddy!


    9. The new girl in my office is a stripper. I invited her over for dinner on Friday.


    10. Honey, did you leave that skid in the toilet bowl? Good one!


    11. While you were in the bathroom, they went for it on fourth down and missed. If they can hold them to a field goal they'll still cover.


    12. Bar food again!? Kick ***.


    13. I liked that wedding even more than ours. Your ex-girlfriend has class.


    14. That girl is wearing the same outfit as I am. Cool, I'm gonna go over and talk to her.


    15. I love hearing stories about your old girlfriends, tell me more.


    16. I like using this new lawn mower so much more than the old one, what a wonderful Valentine's day gift!


    17. Let's just leave the toilet seat ';up'; all the time, then you don't have to mess with it anymore.


    18. I've decided to buy myself a boob job. How big do you want 'em?


    19. It's only the third quarter, you should order another pitcher.


    20. Honey, come here! Watch me do a Tequila shot off of Cindy's bare ***!


    21. My mother is going to take care of the tab, so order another round for you and your friends.


    22. I'm so happy with my new hairstyle, I don't think I'll ever change it again.


    23. Damn! I love when my pillow smells like your cigars and scotch. You passed out before brushing your teeth again, ya' big silly!


    24. You are so much smarter than my father.


    25. If we're not going to have sex, then you have to let me watch Sportscenter.25 things your wife or girlfriend will never say?
    LOL funny. yeah my GF would NEVER EVER say those things. good question.





    raiders!!!!25 things your wife or girlfriend will never say?
    funny
    Pretty good, although I've actually heard no. 8 before. lol
    that's not true i have said most of those to my current bf

    What does it mean when your ex flirts with girls in front of you when you broke up with him?

    me and my ex wen out for four months..nothin too serious. so i broke up with him. after we broke up he started talking my bestfriend and telling her how much he missed me and stuff. i gave in because i only broke up with him cuz his friends didnt want us to be together. he didnt ';ask me out'; but we talked on the phone/online/few dates for about 7 months then we dropped it again cuz it wasnt working out. he called me one time after but that was basically our last phone conversation. we still talk online but he treats me like a germ in school. so i dont tolerate it. he even flirts with girls in front of me. what the hell should i do? i still have ALL of highschool to deal with him and i dont know if i should get over him or talk to him or if he wants to talk to meee? omgg im so lost. HELPPP!What does it mean when your ex flirts with girls in front of you when you broke up with him?
    He's being childish, and trying to make you jealous, don't let it bother you. Just ignor him like he was a germ. Don't let him know it bothers you, because if you do then he wins. It will bother him more knowing your not upset by his actions, it works like a charm everythime.What does it mean when your ex flirts with girls in front of you when you broke up with him?
    it means he's trying to make you jealous because he feels bitter about you breaking up with him. he wants to hurt you
    You broke up with him so I fail to see why you have a problem. But you do sound like a typical woman not knowing what you want.
    he just trying to get your goat. making you jealious knowing you cannot have him.
    he wants to make you jelous... what you need to do is act like u are not bothered and reverse it, flirt in front of him with others, if he wants you he will soon come back...
    He has moved on, thus he is over you.
    he wants to make you jelous and he might still be crushing on you but you don't need no immature guy like that don't go back out with him
    he's trying to make you jelous
    Perhaps he still has love for you and assumes, perhaps wrongly, that you are comfortable with this showing of emotion towards another. The other option is, that he may be trying to make you jealous. Either way, express it to him... it can't make things worse!
    hes tryin to make u jealous and or mad and it seems to be workin, get another bf and he will stop or just flirt with other guys around him
    He's hurt that you ended the relationship so now he's trying to display how desirable is is to other women. It's up to you as to what next...when you were with him you had little if any time spent together, and the jealous friends of his. So the question you must ask yourself is: ';What has changed that will make the things that lead me to dump him in the first place, not being around?'; If it's gonna be the same, why go through it again...? Talk to him and make it clear that things have to change, if you are gonna consider another try
    Let him go. He sounds like a player to me.





    Break it off clean. Go on with your life. Focus on developing yourself for right now. Do not be too quick to jump to a new relationship. If you are serious about going on to college, you need to focus on doing well in high school if you wish to get into a good college.
    You know what that mean ahhh dahhhh.
    It means he's over you and its time to move on.
    if u guys aren't together, then y are u worried about who he does what with? u guys tried it more than once, obviously it didn't work. so take this time to do u. do what u like or have to do. don't worry if he's trying to make you jealous or if he's trying to hurt u, is those are his intentions then he needs to grow up. cuase ur a woman that has other stuff to do than worry about these little boys.
    He sounds like an a##hole who's just trying to make you jealous and take advantage of your emotions. Try happily introducing more hot girls to him, that should bite him in the a## pretty hard.
    He's just trying to show you that you aren't the only one that wants him. If he wanted to, he has his pick of girls, he doesn't have to wait on you to make a decision.
    It means he is trying to get a reaction out of you and make you jealous. It also indicates that he still has feelings for you.