your ex is messed up!!!!!!!!!! she needs HELP!!!!!!!
Look for other people to be with...someone who really truly does indeed care about you...that's what's most important....
Good Luck!!! :-)
P.S. Stay away from her......................When a break is so bad that you can not even move on as a friend because your ex has done things to hurt you?
You d be surprised what time can do. I would just move on. If she called your work trying to get you fired and threatened to call the cops then she has a problem not you. Move on!
You really need to PIHB.
I';m sorry man, but DO NOT TALK TO HER, she is CRAZY. I know it hurts, but time does heal wounds, and hopefully you'll meet a girl who isn't one of those evil things. MOVE ON, HELL RUN, RUN, RUN, DO NOT LOOK BACK. You do not want a crazy druggie. Be better than that, and you're worth more than that crap. Only self obsessed assholes deserve those women.
my question to you is... even 5-10 years later, why would you want to be freinds w/ this person? she sounds kinda psycho.
but, if you just want an answer... no. I, personally, don't think people can/should ever be friends after they date, because it's kind of regressing the relationship. but, if you want an optimistic answer w/ a plan on how to be her friend 5-10 years later, then here it is:
Yes, of course you can be friends... first, decide how long is long enough, 5 or 10? I'll split it for the sake of simplicity... 7.5 years from now, give her a call, say you ran across her in facebook/myspace/you saw her mom/whatever (just something that made you suddenly think of her). but not before then. and ask if she wants coffee/a drink.
what sucks is you feel like you've wasted the time (been there)
A buddy of mine ';dated'; for like two years - they were going to get married
When I saw him in the store he said they had broken up and he called it a ';learning experience';
chalk that time up to learning AND TURN AWAY
the hard thing to do is forgive her - grit your teeth and do it (you don't have to say a word to her to do that) - but don't have a THING to do with her anymore
if you do, that growing feeling of stiffness you'll feel is your slow death